Often i have come across instances where we play the blame game; between friends, family, coworkers, our perfect soulmates 😏 …. who’s wrong who’s right, who is perfect and who is not ….
Irritating as it sounds, but i recently had to babysit a married friend of mine. I could see it in her eyes that she is frustrated and almost battling her tears. One more minute of silence and she would be in depression. She had everything settled in her life… A perfect family, non-grumbling in-laws, a loving and caring husband, an adorable, cute, well behaved kid who was mature enough even before the age of 1.
Not everything you see is to believe i thought… While she cared for everyone around her, took interest in what others wanted, emotionally and physically catered to everyone, but no one to do things for her. She felt alone in this home crowd..I thought this is what happens to most of the married women… Sacrifice or rather willing do everything for others and later regret as to why they did not live their own lives.
Why to take oneself for granted. Maybe because of this, everyone else does and doesn’t value you. She spoke for hours and hours and i sat their with my cup of tea listening to the howling and weeping. And after this ended, she got up and was all set to to repeat the same practice. I tried advising her that don’t do things that don’t keep you happy; and she replied, “They are my happiness”.
Its strange how we perceive the world. But maybe what my friend needed is someone who could hear her out and not give advises. This is what a lot of people in the world need. Somebody to talk to.. We have sooo many friends, perfect relationships, but we cant go and confide into that one person in a problem.. It is depressing to read so many suicides happening around which can be stopped if we decide to talk to someone.
We cannot change the whole world… but we can start with one.
Having spent most of my time is my home country, shifting base to a new place was the toughest decision of my life. Having a fun filled, friends surrounded, family life, you come into a to a place, which is way different from what you have lived or believed.
A lot of us have experienced and even shared how this change process makes a mark… It is easy for some and takes a toll on some.
For me, the major change has come in customs and beliefs. But it is amazing to see how intertwined customs and beliefs can be (though some might disagree). Religion though plays a very important role in balancing the equation, but sometimes it often misleads as well. Believing in something is good, but being forced to follow is another tale.
I miss the city-lights, my fairy tale drinking parties, the car races, the dances, the music, the ambiance and to end it… a long drive which would end up in the next moon rise.
We all feel the need to fit in and do try our best to do so as well but miss the space we share our best in and with… You miss being YOU with you…
Often sitting at my office desk, i wondered, why on earth am i doing this…. a talented girl who can make the world go around her is sitting and making reports, coordinating the office work, taking shit from people, like whyyyyy….. frustrated, anxious, curious, i open this site and thought lets connect. It’s not like we don’t have apps and browsers to connect now a days, but connecting through writing is still a different experience.. It’s like the pleasure some people get while reading a hard copy book can never match the online way of reading the same. That is me, that could be US…
I may not be like those typical bloggers who are great with words, but i am sure to connect or at least try my best too.. because many of us are sailing on the same ship… without knowing where it will take us or what are we going to do on it.. but we still sail the journey with strangers on board and a wish for excitement.
We all have at some point in our life’s wanted to wonder so as to why do we do some particular things…. for example pleasing your family, friends, boss, girlfriend, boyfriend or with an ‘s…. It gives a temporary good feeling, but that doesn’t lasts long, as you have too keep repeating this pleasing process time and again to have their memories stay. Some are fortunate to have this feeling stay forever and some are again put in the try and test phase. Its good to wonder as it proves two things, ONE that you are alive, TWO you have a brain to think 🙂
I always hated the long blogs which went on for ever and ever (no offenses). so i promise to keep it short…
Do read and let me know what you Wondered…