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Can happiness really be found…

I have been reading about this one word “happiness” across the internet…. How to find happiness, 10 ways that lead to happiness, find your perfect happiness…. Does this term “Find Happiness” exist or it is just an illusion we create.

I really never understood how can you find happiness when it purely lies within you. You pave the way for it. You could go around the bush finding, asking happiness, but it will only find you, when you find yourself.

We are now so tech savvy that we try and find temporary happiness. Chatting with a stranger online, clicking selfie’s (many a times to prove a point to others), expensive clothes (even when you cannot afford them) unknowingly destroys your inner peace. These things do give a satisfaction, but you cannot label this satisfaction as happiness. A lot of you might disagree, but I do believe it is the truth. Life happens in-between small memories and we run behind making a whole movie to find one.

Happiness is not something to be found but merely be felt. Nothing can buy happiness unless you have the feeling within you that can make you smile. Lets create this smile for us and others.

Live.Love.Life

A EAR to an Ailing heart

Often i have come across instances where we play the blame game; between friends, family, coworkers, our perfect soulmates 😏 …. who’s wrong who’s right, who is perfect and who is not ….

Irritating as it sounds, but i recently had to babysit a married friend of mine. I could see it in her eyes that she is frustrated and almost battling her tears. One more minute of silence and she would be in depression. She had everything settled in her life… A perfect family, non-grumbling in-laws, a loving and caring husband, an adorable, cute, well behaved kid who was mature enough even before the age of 1.

Not everything you see is to believe i thought… While she cared for everyone around her, took interest in what others wanted, emotionally and physically catered to everyone, but no one to do things for her. She felt alone in this home crowd..I thought this is what happens to most of the married women… Sacrifice or rather willing do everything for others and later regret as to why they did not live their own lives.

Why to take oneself for granted. Maybe because of this, everyone else does and doesn’t value you. She spoke for hours and hours and i sat their with my cup of tea listening to the howling and weeping. And after this ended, she got up and was all set to to repeat the same practice. I tried advising her that don’t do things that don’t keep you happy; and she replied, “They are my happiness”.

Its strange how we perceive the world. But maybe what my friend needed is someone who could hear her out and not give advises. This is what a lot of people in the world need. Somebody to talk to.. We have sooo many friends, perfect relationships, but we cant go and confide into that one person in a problem.. It is depressing to read so many suicides happening around which can be stopped if we decide to talk to someone.

We cannot change the whole world… but we can start with one.